Tuesday, June 24, 2014

If not us, then who?

One of my friends shared an article on Facebook entitled, "Adoption From Foster Care - What is it Really Like?"  I would encourage everyone to read it because I think it very succinctly covers some important concerns with foster adoption.  And I also LOVED the way it ends.  The author says:
"I can’t tell you how many people have told my husband and I that they admire what they do, but could never do it. And to each and every person who has said that, my response has been the same: sure you could. Being a foster parent or an adoptive foster parent is, at its core, very simple. Anyone who has ever parented has already done what you need to do. Can you make a kid feel safe? Provide for them? Care for them? Advocate for them?"
It reminds me of a Matthew West song, "Do Something".  I've pasted the lyrics below.  Think about it.  For further reading, I suggest my husband's blog post about the Biblical directive to care for orphans.




I woke up this morning
Saw a world full of trouble now
Thought, how’d we ever get so far down
How’s it ever gonna turn around
So I turned my eyes to Heaven
I thought, “God, why don’t You do something?”
Well, I just couldn't bear the thought of
People living in poverty
Children sold into slavery
The thought disgusted me
So, I shook my fist at Heaven
Said, “God, why don’t You do something?”
He said, “I did, I created you”

If not us, then who
If not me and you
Right now, it’s time for us to do something
If not now, then when
Will we see an end
To all this pain
It’s not enough to do nothing
It’s time for us to do something

I’m so tired of talking
About how we are God’s hands and feet
But it’s easier to say than to be
Live like angels of apathy who tell ourselves
It’s alright, “somebody else will do something”
Well, I don’t know about you
But I’m sick and tired of life with no desire
I don’t want a flame, I want a fire
I wanna be the one who stands up and says,
“I’m gonna do something”

If not us, then who
If not me and you
Right now, it’s time for us to do something
If not now, then when
Will we see an end
To all this pain
It’s not enough to do nothing
It’s time for us to do something

We are the salt of the earth
We are a city on a hill (shine shine, shine shine)
But we’re never gonna change the world
By standing still
No we won’t stand still
No we won’t stand still
No we won’t stand still

If not us, then who
If not me and you
Right now, it’s time for us to do something
If not now, then when
Will we see an end
To all this pain
It’s not enough to do nothing

It's time for us to do something



Sunday, June 22, 2014

The minivan... stepping out in faith

When we got married, John and I both drove little cars, he a Saturn Ion and me a Honda Civic. When Blaise was born we quickly realized that compact cars are not designed to hold rear-facing car seats! So just about a week after he was born, we bought a used Honda CR-V. It had low miles and was in good shape and we assumed it would be our forever car. Although we had talked about adoption, in our minds that was a long way down the road.

 Fast forward a few years to 2012 when we had our third bio child and moved to South Bend. We bought a narrow car seat in order to fit all three in the CR-V, but realized that it was a temporary fix. We also started to hear God's call to adoption more firmly and more as a now thing, rather than something way in our future.


When we started the adoption process in October of 2013, we knew that it would require purchasing a larger vehicle. Being practical, money-saving people, we said that we would wait and buy it after we had completed the home study and been approved by the state. We had always hoped that would be spring of 2014, so that our new child could transition into our home before the school year began in fall 2014. Recently with the delay of our paperwork from Kansas (and many delays and hiccups previous to this), it has become clear that our approval would likely not come until the fall. John will be working full time in the fall and I will be working part-time and we'll both be splitting the childcare duties. Realistically, there won't be any time for car shopping.

So we stepped out in faith.  We believe that God will be faithful to the call he has placed in our hearts.  We believe that despite all the delays and hiccups and frustrations, that approval will come.  We believe that we will be matched.  And so we cleaned out the CR-V and did way more online car shopping and research than I ever wanted to do!  We crunched the numbers and settled on a 2011 Honda Odyssey.


It seats 8.  Room for our family to grow.  When John returned home with it, Blaise immediately counted the seats and said "now, we can have 6 kids!"  I'm believing that through God's provision we will have 4 or 5 before the calendar year is up, maybe even before the school year begins :-)